Today was a much needed day away from holiday and cleaning responsibilities, though going to my parent’s house is always a mixed bag. They love Bear and Bear absolutely loves going there, but literally all the do is argue with each other and put each other down.
Bear, fortunately, is usually too absorbed in his own thing to notice or care, but I have to sit there and just weather it while they each try to sort of sway me to take their side in whatever bullshit argument is happening at any given time (they don’t do this in front of the other, so I’m not put on the spot to take a side and defend anyone, thankfully; it’s more like, when the other party leaves the room, I get ranted to in this conspiratorial way that suggests they think I must be “on their side.” It’s been happening for basically my whole life, and at this point has moved beyond uncomfortable to simply annoying).
I catch myself, occasionally, when I’m annoyed at Andy, having to bite my tongue to avoid doing this to Bear; in my case, it’s to keep myself from muttering something like, “Of course, your dad didn’t put the groceries away again,” or something else fairly innocuous, but still, I don’t want to get into the habit of doing what my parents do. The issues you have with your spouse are yours, and while I try not to judge, deciding to sit and fume over them instead of working them out is a choice, and one that you are making everyday. But don’t try to make an issue you have with your spouse into an issue your kid has with their mom/dad. That’s unbelievably petty and unfair.
Anyway, as much as I do genuinely love them, I could rant about my issues with my parents all day, but I’d rather not. Most of the day was quite pleasantly spent. I got a quick nap while Bear watched Sia music videos, and my sister and her kids loved their gifts. I bought my sister Lore Olympus-inspired candles from a maker on Etsy, and her eyes literally bugged out when she opened the box.
“I LITERALLY ALMOST BOUGHT THESE! I even messaged the girl to ask her about the fragrance!” So that was super, super satisfying, and made my day. Also, Lizzy was really into the Sweets Shoppe cart I bought her, and literally pushed it around all day, shoving coins into people’s hands and making them buy Popsicles. All in all, a successful year of gifting.
Back to The Big Clean tomorrow, starting with the kitchen. I will probably do more Before and Afters, even though the Before in this case is hand-wringingly bad, because we haven’t done dishes in, uh, days, because of the holiday, being out, not having gas (or hot water), etc., etc. But it will make for a much more dramatic After shot, so there is that. I’ve got to start a running list of storage accessories etc. that I’ll need to instate some organization and get myself sorted, and then maybe a Dollar Tree trip before the weekend is out.
I’m hoping by Monday I’ll be more or less done, and I can get started on some crafts and personal projects and otherwise enjoy New Year’s festivities before getting back to the daily grind of working parenthood.