So, still not perfect, but oh my gosh. Following the tips from this tutorial, as I said I would, yielded much more positive results. I will be focusing on eyes this week, using the tutorial as a guide, and try eyes in different expressions and from different angles. Hopefully by deconstructing the face (to start) I can become a little more fluent at drawing human faces.
Today was one of those days at work that lasted seemingly forever. It was the last day of finals, one official exam and one session of make-up, so I had no students. Luckily, I’ve gotten slightly better about using my time wisely, so I read about 125 pages of one of my books, did a review of Lesson 12 and started in on Lesson 13 on my ASL, and did some substantial work on my next micron drawing. So despite being a “do nothing” day, I feel like I did a fairly decent amount.
While I was at work, my sister sent me an event link for a Onesie Bar Crawl in Manchester (which is the city adjacent to where she lives), with the tag, “lots of fun stuff coming up,” which made me more than a little wistful. I like where I am in my life; I spent so many years being told that so much of what I have — a house, a full-time job, a spouse, a kid — was going to be beyond my reach because of The Way I Am, that having all these things, wonderful on their own, is especially satisfying.
But I sometimes miss The Before Times, when I had the freedom to basically just pick and choose what frivolous thing I wanted to do. In so many ways, on paper, my 20s looked miserable; I was living with an over-bearing parent and had virtually no privacy, I had neither a license nor a car; you’d think it would have been unbearable. But I lived near a train leading into a big city, I had friends with cars, I was within walking distance of cafes and movie theatres, and — in some ways, most importantly — I had a job and very few financial responsibilities. I was living in a rent-controlled apartment (paying about $500/month, utilities included), I was single, and my student loans were still in their grace period. In so many ways, I had more freedom than I’d ever had at any other time of my life.
And everything was possible!! I was still looking at graduate schools and figuring out what I wanted to do, and I actually had money to seriously consider going back to school to pursue it. I was single and had dozens of dating sites to peruse at my leisure. I had disposable income and infinite energy, and late nights in Boston getting bleary-eyed drunk and stumbling through the streets with my closest girlfriends talking about career woes and blowjobs and travel plans and birth control, and just, everything felt like it was just on the precipice of Happening. There were so many beautiful nights with friends that were full of vodka and pillow talk, and laughingly pouring over salacious OKCupid messages from interested strangers. I am happy with my husband, and how comfortable I am with him (more so than I’ve ever been with anyone in my life), but I also miss those first few tentative Instant Messages, signing on to a message with his name on it, the aimless fantasies about who he was behind the screen, that first stumbling face-to-face meeting at Borders Cafe.
I had some beautiful nights, full of beautiful moments, that I know I’ll never recapture. And none of those moments, none of those nights were ever anything earth-shattering; I mean, we did enjoyable things — went drinking, or caught a movie or a show, went into Boston, hung out at a comedy club — but nothing to write home about. But I still remember walking out through December twilight with the man who would be my husband and my two best friends, two miles through the snow to the cafe where we met up; I remember every word Andy said making the three of us burst into giggles, and I remember knowing even then, with fair certainty, that this was the man I was going to marry. We trudged through still-falling snow and met up with two friends at a bookstore cafe where we spent ages browsing books and looking at maps (again — So Many Possibilities) before catching a train to see a stand-up show and grab some Chinese food at the Hong Kong.
Dinner and some comedy. Nothing Special. But I can still feel the sting of the cold on my cheeks. I can still smell the books in that shop. I can’t explain it, but there was something about that time in my life that made the most mundane moments palpable with What Could Be. Every night was the night my life could change. Every night was the night I could find my true calling through a drunken revelation; I could hop on a train and not come back; I could hook up with the girl I had a crush on since college; I could fall in love.
I know there are still possibilities laid in front of me. They just don’t feel as tangible, as vibrant. I miss that. I love what I have, but sometimes I still want More.
I wish I’d savored it while I was still in the thick of it.
It’s Wednesday. Happy halfway.